Wednesday, July 21, 2010


I have spent the past 2 hours listening to Annabelle throw fit after fit. We are entering a new phase where what I've been doing for discipline just is not working anymore. I have had many people tell me to be careful about what I post on the blog about discipline so I will spare you all the details.

I am just writing trying to see if anyone has any advice or books that they think are worth my time reading! I know the number one thing I need to do is pray and ask God for help and wisdom but I also know it is smart to ask for help from other people too.

Sooooo.....what do you do for discipline? What great books have you read that you would suggest I read??? (Adam and I have searched God's word for what it says about discipline but I was wanting some other books to read as well.)

Thank you in advance; I really appreciate anyone who takes time to e-mail or comment!!


Jessica Kenney said...

Don't Make Me Count to 3. I dont remember the author.

Jenn said...

The only suggestion I have is to try time-out. It has worked for me! I know some parents are against it, but it's a time for the child to settle down and get themselves together.

Kelly said...

i'm right there with you. i'm scared to write about discipline much on my blog. ha!
I just bought "Dare to Discipline" by James Dobson and "Strong Willed Child" by him too. Haven't read them yet but I trust his opinion.
Let me know if you find anything good!!! :-)

Nicole said...

I have felt your pain! It's so overwhelming when your first child gets to the age of needing discipline, because you've never done this before and you don't know what to do!!

Here are my thoughts on some books I have read:
1-2-3 Magic--I thought this was one great, but Chris was not too wild about it. He wants our children to mind the first time we tell them, not after we've counted almost to 3. While I agree with him, I do think the book has enough merits to make it worth reading. At Annabelle's age, there's no reason to give lengthy explanations, and this book addresses that well.

Creative Correction by Lisa Whelchel (Blair from Facts of Life!)--This book was great! Lots of PRACTICAL ideas. The updated version of her book has a whole chapter on the younger age you're dealing with. The only downfall I saw was that alot of her ideas involved money--giving or taking away allowance/rewards, which AB is too young for. But she tells you how you can easily adapt it for younger ones.

Teach Them Diligently by Lou Priolo--this book is amazing. Teaches you how to incorporate Scripture into child rearing. Just amazing.

Dare to Discipline by James Dobson--a classic you should definitely purchase!

Effective Parenting in a Defective World by Chip Ingram--we did this study at church on Wednesday nights a while back, and it was very good. Scott showed videos to go along with the study and I got alot out of it!

Hope that helps and doesn't overwhelm!!!

Lydia Nichole said...

My sister read the book, "Strong Willed Child" by James Dobson when she was having some issues with her daughter acting out. It worked wonders for their family and gave them great ideas from a biblical perspective!

As her kids got older they each responded differently to discipline. What worked really well for one of her boys was to take things of "value" away from his room or play area when he acted up (leave the necessities- clothing, bed, etc, but remove the fun things like toys). He didn't care about time outs,warnings,etc.. but if you took away his favorite toys and had him earn them back- he listened. At one point he was acting soo bad that he literally just had the clothes in his closet and the bed in his room. His parents explained to him that material things are privledges and not entitlements (I'm sure you could adjust that to the age of your little ones). If he wanted to earn his things back, he had to earn them back through good behavior and chores- it taught him to value what he had and to respect his parents. I think that worked really well too since his temperment was soo different from his sisters. Her kids are older than yours are, but you may be able to adjust things according to their age and understanding. Hope that helps!